“Sorrow is better than laughter, for by a sad countenance the heart is made better. ” (Ecclesiastes 7:3, NKJV)
At first glance, this verse seems to make no sense. How can something that feels bad be better than something that feels good? But that is exactly what the writer is saying. How can this be so?
Laughter, though it feels good at the moment, is often used to mask problems, or simply take one’s mind off of the problem. When that happens, nothing is solved. The problem remains.
When a person allows himself to go through the grieving process, he experiences sorrow; however, the issue is more likely to be resolved in the mind. Therefore, the heart is made better.
When you go through a traumatic experience, allow yourself to grieve. Pray that God will use the experience to do something good in your life – to make you better.